Choice
What does life coaching do? Well life coaching expands thinking, propels you forwards, upwards and onwards into the life of your choosing. It helps with decisions in any area of your life that you are facing challenge or struggle.
Yes, your life is made up of a series of choices that you have responsibility for so choose wisely by investing in your development and growth in life.
Did you choose to get out of bed this morning?
How did you respond to a request from a loved one? In anger, in frustration or in delight?
Did you apply curiosity to your morning’s uncertainties or instead fear the unknown?
“People can have the same situations in life and have difference responses. Choose your response now. Choose your life now.”
Choice is an interesting concept. There is always more than one choice in a decision and yet sometimes we can get ourselves stuck by creating two seemingly difficult and complicated options to choose from.
For instance, often people who are unhappy in a relationship will only see pain in both outcomes – I stay with him/her and feel unhappy or I choose to leave and break apart a family. Therefore, there are painful futures with both decisions. This keeps us in an emotional state of stuckness. This is NOT helpful.
And yet, often because we are in an emotional state of fear or unhappiness, we lack the creativity to create NEW options and ideas that can propel ourselves into the life of our choosing which is bright, exciting and fulfilling. What if, the person in the scenario above could envision a future where they had a loving, happy relationship and family, what if they could upskill and uplift themselves and their family to a new level of relating to each other? OR perhaps they can envision the future when they can amicably part ways and yet maintain a functional relationship and go forward with their lives with joy and happiness. Both provide much more digestible options that allow growth in life rather than the feeling of going backwards and descent into despair.
I’ve recently read a book that I would highly recommend aptly titled “The Choice” by Edith Eger. This is a non-fiction account of Edith’s life outlining in detail her experience as a 16 year old in Auschwitz Concentration Camp, her eventual immigration to America and her life’s work as a Psychologist as she helps herself heal from the traumas she experienced whilst supporting others to do the same in their own lives.
The main message is one so familiar to me that prior to reading this book I have used time and time again to support my growth in life, to prevent my suffering over situations in life and to support my healing from life’s enviable challenges. The message is:
You have a choice – you have responsibility in life
“No one can take away from you what you’ve put in your mind”. So hear the trumpet call to live and love and celebrate your life because it is precious, you are precious.
So run free in life,
“Comparisons in sufferings like comparisons in beauty are futile. There is no scale to human suffering, your experience is your own.”
P.S. If you think, ah my suffering isn’t as challenging as a survivor of Auschwitz is and therefore belittle your own experience, you are creating more suffering for yourself, your own personal jail, your own concentration camp of being a victim and you are making a choice to suffer more. Comparisons in suffering, like comparisons in beauty are futile. There is no scale to human suffering, your experience is your own as Edith’s experience is her own. People can have the same situations in life and have different responses.
Choose your response now.
Choose your life now.